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RTT Helps with Relationships: Get Control of the Drama
The Truth About Energy Vampires — And How to Take Your Power Back
We’ve all had them in our lives — that one person who, after spending time with them, leaves you feeling tired, anxious, or even physically unwell.
The Truth About Energy Vampires — And How to Take Your Power Back
We’ve all had them in our lives — that one person who, after spending time with them, leaves you feeling tired, anxious, or even physically unwell.
It could be a family member, friend, co‑worker, boss, or even an ex‑partner. These people aren’t literally after your blood — but they are feeding on something just as vital: your energy, focus, and joy.
Many sensitive people call them energy vampires. Psychologists might call them narcissists, victims, or co‑dependents. Whatever the name, the result is the same: you feel drained, off‑center, and less like yourself.
Why Sensitive People Are Especially Affected
If you’re highly sensitive or empathic, you naturally pick up on other people’s emotions and energy. This can be a gift — but it can also make you a magnet for those who need constant emotional “fuel.”
Over time, this can lead to anxiety, physical symptoms, and even depression. It’s one of the top reasons many sensitive people feel unfulfilled, despite being caring, generous, and giving so much to others.
The 4 “Control Dramas” Energy Vampires Play
James Redfield, author of The Celestine Prophecy, identified four common patterns in draining relationships. I see these all the time in my work:
Poor Me – The victim who uses guilt and hopelessness to get your energy and attention.
Aloof – The standoffish person who withholds emotion, drawing you in to “win them over.”
Interrogator – The one who asks intrusive or critical questions to make you feel small.
Intimidator – The aggressive person who uses anger, criticism, or even threats to keep control.
These games may be conscious or unconscious, but they all come from the same root: a deep‑seated belief of “I’m not enough.”
Three Steps to Stop the Drain
Identify the Game
Recognize which control drama is playing out. Naming it breaks the unconscious pattern.Interrupt the Energy
Ask a direct, clarifying question that calls out the behavior:Aloof: “I notice you seem withdrawn. Do you want me to give you space?”
Poor Me: “It sounds like you feel stuck. Is this really how you see it?”
Intimidator: “Your words feel intimidating. How do you actually want me to feel?”
Interrogator: “Your questions feel intrusive. What do you really want to know?”
Recenter Yourself
Use a quick centering breath:Place your hand over your heart.
Breathe in slowly for a count of 4, imagining fresh, calm energy filling your body.
Hold for a count of 2.
Exhale for a count of 6, releasing any tension or energy that isn’t yours.
Repeat 2–3 times until you feel grounded and back in your own energy.
Why This Is About More Than Just Boundaries
This isn’t just about saying “no” or walking away.
When you understand the deeper dynamics — and shift your own subconscious patterns — you stop attracting these draining interactions in the first place. You stay grounded, confident, and clear in your energy, no matter who you’re around.
That’s where Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) comes in. RTT works at the subconscious level to break old emotional patterns, heal childhood programming, and help you respond from a place of empowerment rather than reaction.
Your Next Step
If you’re ready to stop feeling drained, resentful, or powerless in your relationships, my Relationship Transformation RTT Program can help you:
Clear old emotional patterns at the root cause
Build natural confidence and inner boundaries
Stay grounded and at peace around anyone
Restore your energy and focus for what truly matters
Schedule your free Consultation to talk about your situation and how we can shift it together.
"I am incredibly pleased with the transformative effects of my RTT sessions with Tori. Previously, I was overwhelmed by severe anxiety and procrastination regarding my divorce. However, since working with Tori, I have embraced my true self and learned to appreciate who I am. I now understand that my own well-being is essential, and it’s okay if not everyone agrees with me. This has empowered me to express my opinions boldly. I believe there is nothing beyond my reach if I set my mind to it.” — Mary F.
